Do you ever find yourself making concessions for your friends that you might not for your partner?
Example: I went on a hike (which I hate doing) with some friend’s for one of their birthdays, but I’d never do that with Jake.
Does that mean I love him less? Hardly, it just means I value our time spent together on another level.
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you need to share every single thing in common… if you do, that’s probably unhealthy.
Of course, you need a certain level of commonality to even form a meaningful relationship… but how much do you really need?
We both enjoy happy hour, watching t.v. at home in sweatpants, doing standup, and we can probably agree - potato chips are a food group. I can honestly say, I feel it’s a pretty solid relationship. Do I love watching sci fi or going to the theater with him to watch Disney movies? No. Does he like day drinking and debating criminal procedure and current world politics? Doubtful.
When you decide to share your life, or even part of your time on earth with someone, it isn’t about being the same person. It’s about loving and respecting your differences and watching that person light up when they talk about something they’re passionate about.
Jake could be talking about something I find entirely uninteresting and yet, when I see how excited he is… I get excited. Wait, what about a Tardis? You love the Seahawks because of … enter generic sports lingo (if you aren’t #TeamTebow, fuck off), or how you know exactly how to salt meat (#saltbae)
Sometimes we do things we wouldn’t do for our significant others… and that’s ok.
Every relationship is individualized and specific to the person.
XOXO The Bride